The Art of Regulated Presence
A Trauma-Informed Workbook in Nervous System Literacy for Coaches & Facilitators
121 pages · 7 parts · 16 sections
For practitioners who hold space for other humans & want to stop borrowing capacity they haven’t built.
What this is:
This is not a book about trauma.
It is a workbook for the person sitting in the other chair.
Most coach training teaches technique. This workbook teaches what precedes technique: the state of your own nervous system when someone else’s is moving.
You cannot regulate another nervous system beyond the capacity of your own.
Your body is the first intervention. Your pacing is the medicine. Your restraint is the safety. That is what this workbook trains.
What’s Inside:
Seven parts, built to be worked in order the first time through — then returned to as a field guide across your practice.
Part I — Foundations What trauma-informed actually means. Polyvagal theory and the window of tolerance. Grounding, orienting, and felt sense. Titration. Pendulation.
Part II — Core Somatic Literacy Emotional agility and literacy. Parts work (IFS-informed, somatic).
Part III — Emotional & Internal Systems Trauma-informed communication. Boundaries as nervous system events. Nonviolent communication, somatic application.
Part IV — Relational & Communication Skills Holding space and co-regulation.
Part V — Applied Facilitation SE / EMDR / EFT — scope, limits, and referral awareness. Recognizing dissociation and trauma breakdowns.
Part VI — Clinical Awareness (Non-Practicing) Moral injury and compassion. Professional integrity, notes, and data protection.
Part VII — Ethics, Depth & Integrity Trauma in systems. Practitioner shadow.
How each section works:
Every section contains four things, in this order:
- Core concepts — grounded in nervous system science, written plainly.
- Practitioner practices — embodiment exercises for your regulation. Not your client's.
- Reflection prompts — honest self-inquiry, not performance journaling.
- An anchor statement — read aloud before sessions where it applies.
Work through it once, in order. Then keep it close. Open it when something feels off — before facilitation, after a difficult session, when you notice yourself proving rather than being.
It is not a workbook you finish. It is a reference you return to.
Who this is for:
- Coaches whose training was technique-heavy and nervous-system-light.
- Facilitators, space-holders, and somatic practitioners who want clearer scope and sharper awareness.
- Practitioners who know they've been overreaching — and want the language to stop.
Who it is not for:
- People looking to treat their own trauma. This is a practitioner workbook, not therapy material.
- Anyone seeking a certification or credential. It isn't one.
- Anyone who wants quick protocols without the internal work.
In Their Words
Working with Rose was a deeply transformative and sacred experience. From the very beginning, I felt held in a space of safety, truth, and non-judgment, something that is rare and essential when doing real healing work. Rose has an incredible ability to see beyond surface patterns and gently guide you into the root of what is ready to be witnessed, felt, and integrated. She does not force healing or impose answers; instead, she creates a grounded, compassionate container that allows your own wisdom to rise. In her presence, my nervous system softened, my body felt safe, and emotions that had been stored beneath the surface were finally able to move. What stood out most was Rose’s integrity and attunement. She listens deeply, not just with her ears, but with her whole being. She knows when to speak, when to hold silence, and when to simply witness. The work unfolded organically, in a way that honored my timing and autonomy, while still creating profound shifts. After our work together, I noticed tangible changes, greater clarity, emotional regulation, and a sense of coming back home to myself. The healing wasn’t just mental or emotional; it was somatic and energetic, settling into my body in a way that felt sustainable and real. Rose is a guide who truly walks her talk. She is embodied, present, and deeply respectful of the healing journey. I trust her completely, and I would recommend her to anyone who is ready for authentic, grounded, soul level transformation.
I took 2 workshops being the primal movement and sananga and shibari ceremony and both brought in very necessary healing in my life. The primal moment workshop was very well tailored the the class, purpose, and our individual moment needs. I felt safe to move freely. In the sananga and shibari ceremony, I truly received the somatic healing I needed. While rose served the medicine, I instantly released and I immediately felt her support. I had a moment within myself and I cried so much, while sharing, yet keeping that moment within myself. It was a beautiful lesson on internal boundaries, which further deepened once reaching the shibari work. Our collab artist roper was also very gentle, supportive, encouraging, and in a rope moment where we did need quick assistance, the roper was already there to support and take over to process with a great experience. All around I loved my experience and I look forward to coming back for more workshops, classes, and experiences